Category Archives: Spiritual

Am I a Fool?

This quote is from a post about wisdom and how sin reduces us all to fools.

Here are the four aspects of foolishness.

  1. Foolishness of self-centeredness
  2. Foolishness of self-deception
  3. Foolishness of self-sufficiency
  4. Foolishness of self-righteousness

 

Under foolishness of self-centeredness, Paul Tripp writes “Often our living has no greater purpose than self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment. Does this sound harsh? Well, ask yourself, “Why do I ever get impatient with others?” “Why do I ever say things I shouldn’t say?” “Why do I get discouraged with my circumstances?” “Why do I give way to anger or give in to self-pity?” The answer is that, like me, you want your own way, and when things don’t go your way or people are in your way, you lash out in anger or you turn inward in discouragement.

Am I being foolish?  Am I being self-centered?  It is hard to thing that my life has not greater purpose than self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment.  Lately, I have asked myself the questions listed above – “Why am I impatient with my family”; “why do I say things I shouldn’t say?” – why, why, why.

My 23 year-old son will be leaving on January 3 to go into the army.  He is excited about this choice that he has made and I truly want to be happy for him.  But, my heart is full of fear.  I find myself saying things that I wish I could take back.

Last night my son purchased a new car – a sports car.  My husband co-signed for the loan.  I am not too happy about this because I was not consulted.  My husband then put the car on our insurance policy.  Having two drivers under the age of 25 on a car insurance policy is very expensive.  Again, I was not consulted. Anyway, my son is has been out on his own for over a year.  He wants to be independent from us. He does not want us to know about his financial affairs and I think it is about time that he is responsible for his own car insurance.  Right now he reimburses us for the car insurance but he is not very reliable about making the payment when I need it to pay the bill. I think we should support his desire to be independent from us and put his car on his own insurance policy.  Anger builds.  My son is happy about his new car.  He would like me to express happiness for him.  It is hard.  I say the wrong things.  Most likely because I am angry because nobody is consulting me and thinking that what I think is important.  I wish the words could be taken back.  Too late.

I am making everyone miserable because I have not been consulted.  Is it truly that important? Am I being self-centered – thinking more highly of the way I would do things?  Has sin – my self-centeredness turned me into a fool?

Analogy about Sin

I came across this analogy about sin and I wanted to share the link with others.  Hope those that read it will like it.

http://hispeaceuponus.com/2010/09/16/would-you-drink-it/

My Thoughts on the Question “Is It a Sin to Date a Non-Christian?”

I think that Marc Driscoll makes very good and true points in his answer to this question.   The laughter in the audience and between the pastors by inference communicated to me that if a “Christian” does date and maybe even marry a non-Christian that they are not really a Christian. That they are foolish and somehow inferior in their Christian life and have truly made a mess of things.

I would answer the question with out reference to a “lawnmower” but with tears in my eyes so that others can see the importance of choosing who to date.  This is a sensitive topic for me because I am a Christian married to a non-Christian.  I was a Christian before I met my husband and I have wrestled with whether I have committed and maybe even still committing sin by being in this relationship.

My husband and I have been married for 27 years.  Could it be said that I loved him more than Christ when I committed myself to him in marriage? Many will say yes.

So here is a little background. I grew up in a Christian family. My grandfather was a elder in the church. My mother was a bible school teacher and my dad was a deacon. We attended church every time the door was open. I was baptized when I was 12 years old. I used to pray that I would marry a preacher or someone with the same beliefs.  Deep down I think in my childish mind I thought that then they would help  me be a good Christian – make it easier to do the things that God wanted me to do.  As a teenager I was very active in the youth program. I was even active in a bible group during my college years, too. I am still active in a local church.

I don’t know what happens to you when you fall “in love”. It is like all reason goes out of your head.   It is good advice not to let the relationship get to involved.  Many people warned me of all the “dangers” of dating a non-Christian – of being unequally yoked with a nonbeliever.  It was too late.  I was “in love.” My ears were closed and besides I thought at this time that I could conquer the world and young love can conquer all the problems of the world. We were married.  My parents and his parents were not happy but accepted us. It is true the statements the pastors made about not having the same source to look for answers.  My husband does not always understand my reasoning behind my answers.  But I have found that over the years he has come to respect most of them. Marriage is hard for Christians. It is hard period.  Just look at the divorce rate in Christian and non-Christian families.

I used to think I did commit sin by marrying my husband. I had a lot of guilt and shame thinking that when I married my husband that I somehow denied Christ as my first love. But I no longer think that. Several years ago it dawned on me that I was not giving God any credit. I do not know how my choices and God’s sovereignty work.   I think that God is sovereign and that I  also have responsibility.  I was thinking about my childish prayer. I used to think that God answered my prayer for a godly man as “no” or even that my choice over ruled any of God’s part.  I thought that I just had stick with my choice. I began to really think about this and it dawned on me that maybe my husband is the one God wanted me to marry.   What if God wanted me to trust him and lean on him alone and not a godly husband?  That was like an eye opener.  That changed my whole way of looking at this relationship. My guilt and shame about my marriage was no longer on my mind.  The truth of the matter is I am a sinner and will be a sinner till the day I experience physical death.  I am to live my life the best I can in the situation that God has placed me.  I believe that God has placed me in this relationship so I can learn to trust God in all things and to be a servant to someone who does not understand Christ.  I pray every day that God will work in my husbands life and change his heart.  And I believe that God is faithful and by my leaning on Christ that God will sustain me and this relationship. Anything can happen because God is a forgiving, loving, and merciful to His children.

A Prayer About Consummate Freedom

A Prayer About Consummate Freedom.

What a wonderful prayer for the start of the 4th of July weekend.

Patience

I have been thinking a lot about the prayer that I posted yesterday and how impatient I am as a person.  The prayer goes a long so well with the subject of my Wednesday night bible study class.  We are studying the fruits of the spirit and we are using the book “Ways to Develop a God-Filled Life  Patterns” by Mel Lawrenz.

Last Wednesday, the lesson was on patience.  The book outlines two different kinds of patience.  “One is the courage to endure” and the other is the “willingness to wait.” The books then focuses more on the second kind of patience since this a “more everyday kind of patience.”

As my kids were growing up, I was always telling them not to wish their life away when they made such statements as “I can’t wait until I am 13, or 16, or 21.”  The author states “we should make sure today doesn’t pass up by,  while making equally sure we don’t try to live tomorrow today.”  As I was reading this, I realized that even though I told my kids the above statement that I was just as bad about trying to “live tomorrow today”.  I don’t know how many times I have just been focused about a future event that the event is all I can think about that I can not even remember what I did up to the days of the event.

The other thing the author states is “All of us need to be patient as we forbear the rough edges of each other’s personalities.  This is so true and where I think that the prayer that I posted yesterday speaks to me.  I need patience so much when people do not stay on track with my time table.  That is especially a problem if the person does not even know what my time schedule is all about.

Today I am going to try to focus on these statements that the author writes on my quest to develop patience.

Patience is faith in action because it says:

  • I believe God is in control of life.
  • I believe God has given you great potential.
  • I believe trust is basic to life.

Patient is hope in action because it says:

  • I expect that God has great things in mind for the future.
  • Today’s hurt will not remain forever.
  • I know that right will prevail over wrong.

Patience is love in action because it says:

  • You are worth waiting for.
  • Thanks for putting up with my many faults.
  • I know you don’t always mean what you say.
  • I’ll get over being disappointed.

The Most Excellent Way: Love

I attend a Wednesday night Ladies Bible Class and we are studying the book “Patterns Ways to Develop a God-Filled Life” by Mel Lawrenz.

This past Wednesday we studied the chapter called “The Most Excellent Way – Love”

I learned that “love does not show up as an occasional spectacular event but as the consistent, repetitive design-the pattern-of a person’s life.”  John 15:13 tells me that “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”  It is easy to forget that all those chores I do for my family and others are really an act of love.  It is easy for me to fall into the trap of feeling under appreciated and then those feelings of anger arise because I think I am the one doing all the work.  I will have to remember next time I fall into the trap to remember that I am showing love when I am doing those never ending chores.

One of my favorite chapters in the bible is I Corinthians 13.  This passage was read at my wedding.  I really liked the way the author listed the shape of love from this chapter in the bible.  Here is his list.

  1. Love is mature considerateness (“love is patient, love is kind’).  Love is being as aware of the other person as we are aware of ourselves, giving some slack where we can and cheering the other person on.
  2. Love is confident selflessness (“it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud”).  Love looks at others, out at the world, and finds in that vision things that are far more interesting than self.  Love is the pleasure of bragging about other people instead of making a Big Noise about yourself.
  3. Love is charitable awareness (“it is not rude, it is not self-seeking”).  It gives us a distaste for advancing ourselves at the expense of others.  Love has good manners.
  4. Love is forbearance and forgiveness (“it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs”).  Love means being a coach, not a referee.
  5. Love is wholesome expectation (“love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth”).   We show love when we cheer others on in their victories and when we feel wounded when we witness their failures.
  6. Love is protective concern (“it always protects, always trusts”).  Love makes gossip bitter in our mouths and prompts us instead to add to the good reputation of others.
  7. Love is optimistic commitment (“it always hopes, always perseveres, love never fails”).  Love means hoping for the best, not as naive optimism or wishful thinking but as an expectation that God can and does do great things because “he fills everything in every way.”

It is hard to understand love.  I can truly love the way I am suppose to love others when I have a love that shows “the only reason that I have a life is because of an act of God’s love, and the only reason I can survive the sorrows, heartaches, shortcomings, and mistakes in this life is because God is love.  God gives me every breath I take and every meal I eat.  God forgives my sins.  I am compelled to love God and then I must love others as good loves me and them.”

Here are the suggestions that the author listed to make everyday love a reality in my life.  Some of these suggestions really showed me areas that I need to work on to have love more evident in my life.

  • Listen twice as much as I talk.
  • When I think I have listened, check to make sure I did.
  • Pray for a person that really irritates me.
  • Let someone know when they have done a good thing.
  • Invest quality time in the life of a child.
  • Choose not to respond to rudeness with rudeness.
  • Throw away any written reminders of wrongs done to me.
  • Care for my dear husband like Christ cares for the church.
  • Look for opportunities to share God’s wisdom and insights with others.
  • Be nice when driving – let others merge into my lane.
  • Don’t be the center of conversation.  Ask people about themselves.
  • Tell someone I will pray for them only if I really intend to pray for them.
  • When I am talking to someone, look them in the eyes.

Wow!  I have a lot to think about on this subject of love.

Good Friday – April 2, 2010

I finished the book “Fifty Reasons Why Jesus Came to Die” by John Piper today.  This book helped me reflect on the meaning of Christ, the cross and the reasons Christ died the way He did.

I have listed the reasons below along with personalizing some to make then more meaningful to me.

Fifty Reasons Why Jesus Came to Die By John Piper.

  1. To absorb the wrath of God.
  2. To please His Heavenly Father.
  3. To learn obedience and be perfected.
  4. To achieve His own resurrection from the dead.
  5. To show the wealth of God’s love and grace for sinners – like me.
  6. To show His own love for me.
  7. To cancel the legal demands of the law against me.
  8. To become a ransom for many – including me.
  9. For the forgiveness of sins – my horrible sins.
  10. To provide the basis for “my” justification.
  11. To complete the obedience that becomes “my” righteousness.
  12. To take away “my” condemnation.
  13. To abolish circumcision and all rituals as the basis for salvation.
  14. To bring “me” to faith and keep “me” faithful.
  15. To make “me” holy, blameless, and perfect.
  16. To give “me” a clear conscience.
  17. To obtain for “me” all things that are good for “me”.
  18. To heal “me” from moral and physical sickness.
  19. To give eternal life for all who believe in Him.
  20. To deliver “me” from the present evil age.
  21. To reconcile “me” to God.
  22. To bring “me” to God.
  23. So that “I” might belong to Him.
  24. To give “me” confident access to the holiest place.
  25. To become for “me” the place where “I” meet God.
  26. To bring the Old Testament priesthood to an end and become the eternal High Priest.
  27. To become a sympathetic and helpful priest.
  28. To free “me” from the futility of “my” ancestry.
  29. To free “me” from the slavery of sin.
  30. The “I” might die to sin and live to righteousness.
  31. So that “I” would die to the law and bear fruit for God.
  32. To enable “me” to live for Christ and not “myself”.
  33. To make His cross the ground for all “my” boasting.
  34. To enable “me” to live by faith in Him.
  35. To give marriage its deepest meaning.
  36. To create a people passionate for good works – that includes “me”.
  37. To call “me” to follow His example of lowliness and costly love.
  38. To create a band of crucified followers – a band that I belong to!
  39. To free “me” from bondage to the fear of death.
  40. So that “I” would be with Him immediately after death.
  41. To secure “my” resurrection from the dead.
  42. To disarm the rulers and authorities.
  43. To unleash the power of God in the gospel.
  44. To destroy the hostility between races.
  45. To ransom people from every tribe and language and people and nation.
  46. To gather all His sheep from around the world.
  47. To rescue “me” from final judgement.
  48. To gain His joy and “mine”.
  49. So that He would be crowned with glory and honor
  50. To show that the worst evil is meant by God for good.

Save Yourself!

Save Yourself!

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I read this blog this morning and thought it was worth sharing especially with Easter coming in a few weeks

Sunday Challenge December 27, 2009

Our youth minister spoke during this morning worship service.  We studied in the book of Haggai about how the people were building their own houses but not the house of the Lord.  The people were looking after their own affairs instead of the affairs of God.  He then gave us a challenge to think about on this week.  The challenge is to think about your life and decide if the path you are on is benefitting God or is it benefitting me. 

Driving home from worship services the radio was playing the top 20 songs for 2009.  The song “The Motions”  by Matthew West was the number one song for 2009.  I think this song goes along with this topic and challenge.  Am I just going through the motions to get by each day?  I have much to think about for the new year 2010.

Faith – Do I Have Enough?

For the past several Sunday morning Bible Classes we have been discussing Abraham and his faith. Anyway, I was looking in my closet that I call “the dungeon” and I found this book titled “Fueled by Faith” by Jennifer Kennedy Dean. I realized that I purchased this book sometime ago and have never read it.

Chapter One is titled Enough Faith.

The first question in this chapter is “Do you have enough faith?” Well, I am pretty sure that I have wondered that myself. I would answer the question like this – No, I do not have enough faith. So then comes the question – Why did I answer it with a no? The bible says I only need faith the size of a mustard seed and I have seen mustard seeds and they are small. This little bit of faith is suppose to be powerful enough to move mountains. So what happened to my faith.

This chapter points out a distinction between the word – faith and the word – belief. I am thinking what is the difference? Is there a difference? The author points out that a person does not have faith in an outcome, but in a person. The author states the following. “Many times our attempts to exercise faith are in hopes that we will be able to manipulate circumstances and bring about our preferred outcome by means of faith expressed through prayer, which is spoken faith. Have I been trying to manipulate the circumstances by means of faith expressed through prayer? I will admit that I have gotten discouraged when I prayed for a particular outcome and then that outcome did not happen. It is very humbling to think that I have been manipulative in my prayer life.